I can't believe it's my birthday next week!
Saturday, 21st! 😀
Wow! How time flies.
Before you ask, I don't know... I don't know what I'm doing.
Or with whom I'll be spending it.
My actual birthday is always reserved
exclusively for a special someone...
My close friends and family already know that unless I volunteer my birthday plans, the day is always spent with that special someone.
Secretly or openly, depending on the circumstances...
Occasionally, however, this special someone and I may decide to spend it with someone else.
If, and only if, they make us an offer we couldn't possibly resist.
Now, here's the twist.
Sometimes, these offers to celebrate my birthday arrive weeks or days in advance, but I usually make my decision on the day or shortly beforehand.
Of course, that depends on how elaborate the proposed plans are and how much preparation they require.
Until I have made a definite commitment, however, I find myself secretly keeping the day exclusively for that special someone.
You see…
the reality is, even though I have known this person all my life, I'm never bored of them.
And when it comes to deciding whom I would like to spend my birthday with, I tend to play my cards extremely close to my chest.
So whenever people ask me, "What are you doing on your birthday?"
My answer is usually...
"Hmm... still keeping my options open." 😀
This used to annoy one of my friends...
We are not friends anymore now. 🤣
Phew! 😅
The truth is...
I don't receive that many birthday invitations beforehand, considering I rarely tell anyone about it until the actual day...
So most invitations come afterwards.
This means less pressure on me to spend my birthday with people I may not necessarily want to spend it with, including my dearest ones.
Especially them - sorryyyy. 🫶
Not everyone understands this, which is quite fine.
Personally, it's simply because the most exciting and valuable option has always been spending the day with that special someone.
It also affords me the pleasure of secretly choosing whom to share the day with outside of my special someone.
Now, this might sound even stranger to some of you... hahaha.
But there's a sheer satisfaction and a quiet sense of joy I feel when I spend my actual birthday with someone who has no idea it's my birthday...
Until the end of our date.
There's something rather lovely about sharing a special day with someone whose company I genuinely enjoy, without the occasion itself influencing our time together.
These are the sorts of experiences I occasionally enjoyed even before becoming a companion.
Writing this has just made me realise that the most important thing about celebrating my birthday is retaining autonomy over whom I spend it with, where I spend it and what I choose to do.
Wow! I have never articulated that before.
And the offers?
Ah yes, the options.
They come from loved ones, acquaintances and even strangers on the internet... hahaha.
Interestingly enough, the offer is not always something grand, and it doesn't have to be.
But it must be tempting enough for me to leave the special someone for you. 😂
Basically, the special someone and I must agree that spending my actual birthday with you would be more fun, more memorable, more exciting or more adventurous than spending it with each other.
That's it.
So, as it stands, my birthday is still reserved for that special someone and me.
Oh, another thing about my birthday...
I don't remind my loved ones, so naturally, most forget... hahaha.
That means I get to fine them a few days later when I eventually remind them. 😛
You see, these are people who love celebrating their birthdays, plan for days and make such a big deal of the occasion.
So forgetting mine always makes them feel terrible...
And that, ladies and gentlemen, I enjoy capitalising on. 😂
To my future husband…
trust me, you DO NOT want to be fined. 🤣
It's funny writing this now and realising that this little game has become a traditional part of celebrating and secretly enjoying my birthday with my loved ones.
Now, let me be clear...
I welcome and appreciate plans to celebrate with me on any other day of the month, or indeed throughout the rest of the year until a week before Christmas.
Unless you're sending both Christmas and birthday gifts together, of course. 😁
So celebrating with loved ones and other people before or after my birthday is perfectly normal for me.
No competing priorities, no secret reservations and no VIPs.
Just letting good people show me love in their own beautiful way.
Now, if you're reading this...
And think you have just the right idea to tempt me on the 21st, well, I would absolutely love to hear what you've got up your sleeve.
If we haven't met before, kindly reach out through my booking form.
And if we are lovers, well, you already know how to get my attention. 😉
Now…
Tell me, have you guessed who my special someone is?
Take a wild guess... 🙂
